As we all know, marriage is the reason of our being today, which legally we even proud of being engaged in it. Not being it the ground of our continuous existence is only that shows it is the crucial to humanity, but, it happens to be the pillar of any matured woman from falling astray. In the other path, marriage fills any man to answer the name of the responsible man!
From the normal happentances, we, youth who are yet to know the real meaning of marriage, think it as a common act of anyone who needs it, forgetting to know about the responsibilities required to fall into it.
What I want to say, as a youth too, is a piece of advice. Not because I know beyond the spell of any youth about that very marriage, but, due to the current situations any family faces. As a youth who dreams to be a man on himself, who wants to build his family, has to know about marriage before to be engaged. Because, our today’s families, especially in the rural area, one will observe that, a family may have raised about at least five children or above, males and females, but would not try in any way or the other to educate them Islamically talk less of the modern knowledge! What a barren generation do you see in the future?
As a child, male or female, needs to be both educated, because when he grew will know his pride in his community. Female will know her crucial mean to be in the aspect of marriage. If both husband and wife is enough to be freed from illiteracy, then they will know how to fulfill the needs of continuous living; patience, benignity. There will be lesser divorces in any responsible community, high rate of trained children will be enough to redefine our broken homes, where all the repugnant acts will be obnubilated and peace and unity will continue to flick.
Before to drop my pen, I would like to say what has been itching my pen for so long. Our homes need an educated parents, because, that parents are the mirrors from whom their children will be built on whatever the situation they live in. Imagine the home where a child opened his eyes and grew in the chaos of misunderstanding between his parents, will he peacefully live with his wife when he grew enough to marry? Imagine a child who trained and raised like an orphan despite he has both father and mother. But as a result of they have been divorced, he grew like a one-parented child, can he be kind to avoid divorce? Imagine a female child grew between the chorus of her mother’s voice in response to her husband’s voice, can that lady be obedient to her husband when married?
The answers of these aforementioned questions are naked, because, anyone knows that what a child grew in, is what will be his favourite to behave like.
In order to build our homes in a pattern of humanity, we need to educate our sons, daughters and behave ourselves as well as our children will copy from and paste into their future life. Then we will lack what have been dreaming their vanish to come; drug abuse, political thuggery and rapes will become a forgotten history. Then, our future generation will be the exact image of our long awaited dreams.
Abubakar Muhammad Usman, Hungry poet. Writes from Gombe State Nigeria.
